HDFC Leader’s
Meeting << BACK TO SMALL GROUPS PAGE
March 18,
2007
Mrs. Moon read some HDH from the
“World Scriptures” on the topic; purpose of life. After that, she said there are many good
books published that compare Bible quotes with TF’s words. Mrs.
Feddema agreed that a Bible verse can open a Christian’s heart and on that
foundation, TF’s words can be better received.
There are so many good publications available and it is only a question
of how to utilize them for a VIP friendly curriculum. Mrs.
Feddema said that she sent out the HDH material designed for small groups
to different regions and that the feedback has been very good. In other regions, the members couldn’t attend
HD school or leadership school and therefore they are so grateful and happy to
receive the material.
Mrs. Moon said that she uses the
manual during HDH with her children and they are actively participating. Mrs. Feddema encouraged all small group
leaders to give her some feedback about the manual. She personally has used about 10 curriculums
in her group and has had a good response.
Then Mrs. Feddema gave a report
about a recent *2 hr. meeting with Rev.
Kim* and Rev. Geller. First, Rev.
Kim gave clear directions about the difference
between witnessing and multiplication.
The key point is that we have to get rid of the concept of
witnessing. Witnessing is about
organizing a system and then connecting a VIP with that system. It is like saying: “Don’t look at me! Look at Rev. Moon! By attending workshops, we hope that a VIP
becomes a BCF. However, multiplication
is different from witnessing.
Multiplication can only occur when we reach out to people by showing our
own example. We need to be a healthy BCF
otherwise; we can’t create another healthy BCF.
We need to show through our example of life style, prayer and kindness
how we deal with people and live our lives so that people will look up to
us. We need to show that we inherited
TP’s seed and DNA and have thus become small TPs. By example, another BCF can be created. If you keep challenging your character and
lifestyle, you can get there. My own
concept and lifestyle needs to be changed primarily.
Mrs. Derflinger mentioned during a
recent community leader’s conference call that the purpose of the small group
hasn’t been made clear and it is still hard for leaders and members alike to
understand clearly the crucial difference between witnessing and
multiplication. Everyone needs to hear
repeatedly how multiplication works. Mrs. Feddema said that if it were
necessary she would accept the invitation to attend community meetings and
explain the key points of multiplication so that our concepts can clearly be
united. Right now, there are about 40
small groups in our District, the goal is to eventually develop 80 small groups,
and every five groups can be combined with one leader. In the future, the small groups will possibly
deal with spirituality and administration.
Right now, we are in a transition period.
Secondly, Rev. Kim emphasized
the heartistic relationship/bond that we need to develop. Instead of putting emphasis on the church
structure, we need to develop a heartistic bond with people and through this, they will feel our integrity and love and follow
us.
Rev. Kim always keeps a subjective,
principled viewpoint whenever he researches material outside of our
church. If you don’t have a principled
viewpoint, it is very easy to lose your position.
Third, Rev. Kim wants to encourage everyone not to lose the vision. Even if you struggle to bring VIPs or even
your own members, you need to reflect about the internal purpose and have a
change of heart, concept and lifestyle.
Mrs. Feddema reported that the
national HQ is planning to restart monthly 7-day workshops. This would be especially good for single young
people like college students in their 20s.
At
Then there were* testimonies* given. Mrs. Feddema introduced a flyer about
the Japanese cultural night that her group is planning to host once a month
since they had very good feedback last time.
In addition, Mrs. Felberbauer visited neighbors and introduced the true
love pledge and peace messages. Now the group is thinking of changing slightly the phrasing of the true
love pledge to world peace through ideal families etc. and attach it to
the peace messages.
There was also a flyer circulated about a happy family cooking class organized
by Rev. Geller.
*Mrs. Feddema*
emphasized that we need to act rather than having many ideas about what we
could do. She attended a meeting at a
restaurant and a waitress that studied in
*Mr. Rollins*
shared about his group and the challenges that he faces. Weekly meetings are held on a rotational
basis for 4 weeks and then he organizes a family night to which neighbors and
friends are invited. It focuses purely
on relationship building and fun activity.
When we think of our yearly goal 1:1:1, one might think we should move
as fast as we can. However,
relationships take time to build and that could slow down the progress.
Mrs. Feddema commented on that issue
by pointing out that *the small group leader needs to know clearly where the
group is. *The leader needs to observe
the members and know what the next step is.
One can for example alternate with the focus of the meeting. Once it could be only a meeting for the
members to strengthen their relationship and then the next time VIPs could be
welcomed. If you only stay within the
group, the risk is there that the group members stagnate spiritually. Then it will be only a social gathering as
opposed to building heartistic unity with the purpose of multiplication. Mrs.
Feddema shared from her own experience in her group. First, everyone was scared to invite guests,
but once they did it, it brought such an exciting atmosphere into the
group. It was like bringing a newborn
baby into the family. As a leader you
need to pray for each one of your members.
Don’t push them or make them feel threatened. A caring heart is most important.
*Mrs. Des Laurie’s* reported from the recent Koran meeting. God requested on March 7 2007 from Daemonim
to assign an absolute good spirit to each member and that spirit will stay with
us until we die. This spirit can go to
God directly and ask for advice on how to resolve any problem that the BCF
faces. Mrs. Des Lauriers works in a
Japanese company, she got a strong inspiration from an absolute good spirit
regarding a problem in the company, and when she reported the idea she received
to the boss, he was very moved and happy with the suggestion. We should have a way and show determination
to overcome problems. It is important to
make a foundation as a group and when a new guest comes, he/she can stand on
that foundation with the group. The last
meeting’s topic was about value of human life/family= foundation of peace. Members’ answers were sacrifice and living
for the sake of others, whereas VIPs emphasized the importance of justice.
*Mr. Acolatse*
shared a good experience with his tenant.
He was asked to give him a ride in the morning on Saturday even though
he already had arranged for a doctor’s appointment and the schedule was very
busy that day. Nevertheless he served
him and on the way home he asked whether he could come tonight to the
meeting. The tenant was very happy to
attend and had a good experience with his wife at the gathering. The topic was “harmony in marriage”. Afterwards they all went to a member’s house
for dinner and even the VIPs came along.
Mr. Acolatse emphasized that
we need to get rid of our concept and take actions. First he hesitated to invite the VIP but when
he got the courage to ask, he was positively surprised.
Then *Mr. McMahon* told us that he got a call out of the blue from
the president of Dutch hill residents and she sang him an Irish folk song at
St. Patrick’s day. He has been serving that community with clean up projects
and built relationships.
*Mrs. Simon*
reported that she visited a couple that was previously blessed when True Mother
spoke in NJ and suggested to have a service with the husband who was sick at
home. They read the whole speech together and he called his wife later and told
her something beautiful happened to him.
Then the *discussion topic was: “When is it time to invite a guest and how do
we find people, care for people and proceed with them?”*
Mr. McMahon reported about the
importance of a personal commitment to the guest. If one can’t progress with a
guest internally, it is good to do something externally such as fun activity –
fishing etc. He started a family fishing club and all small groups are invited
to hire a boat starting from April/May for $50 a person.
Mrs. Mull said that everyone
basically has a friend or contact that they know. The problem is how to bring
them to a meeting. Therefore it is important to have a good gateway program. A
family fun night or a child’s birthday party can be a good reason to invite
someone. Mrs. Mull thought in the past that it is hard to have a meeting in one
group member’s home in
Someone also said that they were planning on inviting a guest speaker (John
Williams) to the group.
Mrs. Francisco pointed out that the
unity in our family and group is very important. She has decided to divide her
group into 2 groups and she will be focusing on single parents and single VIPs.
We need to build first relationships with VIPs not just push them to come to
the small group.
The peace message can be distributed with one’s name and phone nr. on it. It is also important always to keep calling your
friends, VIPs, members. It is not very healthy to just worry about the small
group meeting. A VIP can also be invited to the WFWP event, family tree seminar
or one heart festival.
Mrs. Feddema concluded by
talking about the popular book and DVD “the secret”. It explains the *law of attraction*.
The focus is wealth and health in the book, but we can apply it to the
development of the small groups. Positive energy attracts positivity
and negative energy attracts negativity. Let us use our imagination and attract
good people into our homes.
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